Boundaries
Practice Tools: September/October 2023
The best from across the field of psychotherapy . . . on us!This month’s selection is from Nedra Glover Tawwab’s "Boundaries Flip Chart: A Psychological Tool to Help Clients Set Healthy Limits, Develop Fulfilling... Read more
Senior writer/editor Alicia Muñoz talks with author, therapist, and Instagram influencer Nedra Glover Tawwab about boundaries and maintaining drama-free... Read more
We Need to Talk about Dating
Can therapists ethically have an online dating profile?Putting yourself out there on the dating scene can be intimidating enough, but therapists have the additional challenge of managing professional and personal... Read more
Sitting Down with Nedra Glover Tawwab
Flexible Boundaries and Drama-Free RelationshipsA new kind of social media and psychotherapy influencer challenges the common cultural misconception that toxic people should be cut out of our lives, no... Read more
Strengthening Personal Boundaries
The Bioenergetic ApproachAsserting boundaries sometimes means confronting painful loss, but in these cases, helping them reinforce their boundaries has led to greater satisfaction. Read more
Lessons from the Masters
Four Seasoned Therapists Share Their ExpertiseAs experts in any field will tell you, the secret to honing your craft is practice, practice, practice. But a little advice doesn’t hurt either. Here, four... Read more
Helping Clients in Toxic Relationships
How to Unravel Trauma BondsIt’s important to recognize that a trauma bond doesn’t have to play out as overt, obvious toxicity or abuse. So many people in relationships have learned... Read more
Five Things Seasoned Therapists Wish They'd Known
. . . And the One Question You Should Always Ask Your ClientsWhether they’ve been practicing for three months or three decades, therapists are continuously honing their craft. But much of what we learn through trial... Read more
The Mentor Who Changed My Therapy Practice
…And How Two Little Words Changed EverythingMost clinicians need a mentor: someone who takes them under their wing and inspires them to be a better therapist. The five clinicians whose stories you’re... Read more
Managing Confidentiality
Three Things I Learned from My Small-Town PracticeWhen you practice in a rural town, sometimes it can feel like everyone is connected to each other. Instead of worrying about boundary and confidentiality... Read more
Couples Therapy During Coronavirus
Challenges and OpportunitiesA clinician who's spent almost two years doing online couples therapy shares the tips and strategies she's found especially helpful. Read more
The Surprising Intimacy of Phone Sessions
Video Chat Isn’t Necessarily BetterIn an unexpected twist, one therapist is finding phone sessions more effective than video sessions. Here's why. Read more
My Client Gets Distracted During Teletherapy, Part 2
Five More Clinicians Weigh InAs a single mother of two girls all quarantining in a small apartment, teletherapy sessions have been challenging for Marcia. She’s often distracted or... Read more
My New Normal, Part 2
Therapeutic Discoveries in the Time of CoronavirusThe COVID-19 pandemic has radically shifted how almost every therapist works nowadays, in ways both expected and unexpected. Although we’re all in this... Read more
Yikes, I’m Attracted to My Client
Five Clinicians Weigh InA therapist finds her client attractive and says their conversations sometimes border on flirtatious. She says she'd never act on these feelings, but worries... Read more
Reflections on Remote Work with Clients
New Lessons on the Space Between UsAs a therapist, I've always liked to work a certain way, in person, face to face in my cozy office. But when the coronavirus hit and I repurposed a guest... Read more
My Angry Client is Getting to Me
Five Clinicians Weigh InMark has anger issues, and his therapist finds herself getting extremely reactive when he loses his temper in therapy. Recently, he called her “a joke” and... Read more
The Do's and Don'ts of Self-Disclosure
Avoiding Ethical PitfallsWhen I've asked people who've gone to therapy what was most helpful, again and again, they've described times when their therapists shared something about... Read more
VIDEO: The Biggest Threat to Remarried Boomers
Helping Partners Deal with StepfamiliesSuccessfully combining families as part of remarriage is always challenging. But it's especially hard when older re-couplers have adult children, who may or... Read more
Confessions of a Former People Pleaser
The Radical Act of Rethinking Your BoundariesI used to view boundaries as a fancy way of dressing up rejection, incompetence, and selfishness. But after a decade of working as a couples counselor, I've... Read more
My Client Ghosted Me
Five Clinicians Give Their TakeSara had been attending weekly therapy for three months. Her therapist thought they'd developed a strong bond, but Sara has missed her last two sessions. Her... Read more
My Clients Are Asking Personal Questions
Five Clinicians Give Their TakeA therapist works from his home office, which means clients sometimes observe elements of his personal life. He's had clients ask about his electric car... Read more
VIDEO: Esther Perel on How to Talk with Men About Intimacy
Framing Intimacy as a Regular Part of LifeIt's not always easy to get men to talk about intimacy and sex. But according to renowned sex therapist and author Esther Perel, there's a way to weave... Read more
I Accepted a Gift from My Client
Five Clinicians Give Their Take on What to Do NowAsha recently gave her therapist a homemade necklace, which he accepted, thinking it innocuous enough. Now, she brings it up almost every session... Read more
My Clients and I Use the Same Dating Apps
Five Clinicians Give Their TakeA therapist recently joined a few online dating apps after finding herself newly single. She's seen several clients come up in these apps, and suspects they've... Read more
My Client Invited Me to a Family Barbecue
Five Clinicians Give Their TakeA therapist recently moved to a new town and discovered that his client's daughter attends the same school as his son. The client recently... Read more
My Client Uses Me in Inappropriate Hypothetical Examples
Six Clinicians Give Their Take on This Tricky Clinical ScenarioA male client uses his therapist in hypothetical examples, which the therapist finds inappropriate. Recently, when they were discussing healthy dating habits... Read more
VIDEO: The Hearing
A Therapist Shares Her Most Transformative SessionIn our own small way, the Networker has tried to revive the ancient, tribal practice of storytelling. At our third annual Symposium storytelling event, Kirsten... Read more
When Money Comes Up in Therapy
Two Ways to Make Your Fee Policies Clear and Easy to Talk AboutMost therapists were never coached about how to reconcile the closeness of the therapeutic encounter with the fact that therapy is also a business. Read more
The Therapeutic Relationship, Revisited
A Man Discovers a Safe Guide, and a Real Person, in His New TherapistBy Stephen Lyons - My work with Sara began in an uninspiring, windowless, downtown suite that she shared with another therapist. But before long, my therapy... Read more